According to Dr. Gail Saltz and Dr. Drew Pinsky, researchers in the field of female sexuality, only 30% of women reliably have an orgasm with intercourse. For others, orgasms during sex are far more elusive.
These findings are in general keeping with other research and surveys over the years. What's common among these surveys: most women seldom, if ever, have an orgasm just while having sex.
Most females require either some direct clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm during intercourse, or must rely on manual stimulation - applied by themselves or by their partner - in order to reach orgasm.
There are broad variations between women's ability to come - under what conditions, how long it takes, the method used - and researchers are still debating why exactly this is. The upshot is this: this variation is about the only normal thing about female sexuality.
A woman should determine what works best for her. If having an orgasm while hopping around the room on one foot works for you, consider that normal.
Abnormal is no or diminished ability to orgasm with any method. This is something that needs to be addressed by you and your health practioner.
Whether you are among the 60% of women that never or seldom climax during intercourse, or can come at the drop of a hat, having an orgasm is a natural part of the human experience. What matters is that you're able to come - if not through sex, then by your own hand or toy.
Should you have consistent difficulty in reaching orgasm, you should make an appointment with your health practioner, and discuss the matter with her. Difficulties in orgasm should be considered a treatable illness. Orgasms are your birthright; there is no shame in bringing up the topic with your doctor or healthcare giver.
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