Playing with yourself doesn't always mean playing all alone. Mutual masturbation is the general term when you masturbate with someone else.
Most often, the two of you touch each other. This kind of masturbation is a part of a healthy sexual relationship, but it's not what we want to talk about here. Such masturbation relies on your partner to help you climax.
No, what we're talking about is masturbating yourself, but with a friend right there to watch, preferably doing the same thing as you. In this way, you stay the boss, from the start, through the middle, to the end.
Masturbation is most often a solitary practice, either because of convenience, or because of lingering feelings of shame - you don't want to admit to anyone - even your husband or boyfriend - that you "do it."
But there's no requirement that you jill alone. If you can get past the silly notions of embarrassment and guilt, consider broadening your masturbation practice to include a partner - usually another female, but that's up to you. You and your partner will each masturbate separately Call it "dual mutual masturbation" or something.
You keep full control of your orgasms, and she keeps full control of hers. Added to the usual fun aspects of jilling off, you each have the sights, sounds, and smells of erotic activity taking place just inches away.
If you're in a relationship already (whether with a male or another female), bring up the idea of masturbating side-by-side as an experiment in furthering your sexual horizons. Just keep in mind that for some people the concept may seem a little too weird and kinky.
Too, they may get their feelings hurt at the suggestion that you'd rather play with yourself, than have them play with you.
Good relationships are built on realizing partners can't be everything to each other. "Dual mutual masturbation" is not a condemnation that the sex isn't already great; rather, it's a reaffirmation that our sexuality starts and ends with ourselves.
We bring others into our sphere of sexuality to broaden and enhance the experience. Masturbating side-by-side is just another way of accomplishing that.
If you're not in a steady relationship, or you have an open relationship, you might consider finding a "jill off buddy" (JOB) that you can enjoy masturbating with. There need not be any physical contact between you and your JOB.
More often than not, the best JOBs are other girls. Many heterosexual women, who would not consider being physically intimate with another girl, enjoy watching other females masturbate. Needless to say, bi and lesbian women would prefer the company of another female.
Where do you find JOBs? Your circle of friends is a good place to start. Perhaps you already know of a good candidate. But if not, you can readily find like-minded JOBs via an online dating service. True, you're not really looking for a "date," but these services are much easier than using other methods, and the better ones provide a system of vetting those who respond. You want to weed out the creeps and fakes.
There's also personal classifieds in the local newspapers, and Craigslist. But be careful with these: respondents haven't been screened. Be prepared for rude and crude replies.
Once you've find a likely candidate, you can trade photos (we recommend G-rated only), and then if the chemistry is right, agree to meet in a public place during the day.
The two of you need not be in the same room together to enjoy mutual masturbation. In fact, you may prefer whacking off in the privacy of your home, connected only to your partner via the Internet or your cell phone.
For cyber-masturbation, you can use any instant messaging client. Yahoo is a popular one, and so are ICQ and Skype. If you and your JOB have Webcams connected to your PCs you and she can share videos.
Your cell phone is another way to experience mutual masturbation, but if you and your partner are not vocal comers, the whole thing may lack punch. You may find texting to be more erotic, though unless you can type with just one hand, it may crimp your style!
Even more so than sex, mutual masturbation requires a level of trust that's not always present between even established partnerships. Both you and your JOB must trust each other completely, not only while you're masturbating, but afterward.
Many people still feel a stigma of embarrassment over masturbating. If this applies to you, and if you think your trust might be betrayed, then look for a different partner. Or continue to masturbate in private only.
When you have found someone you can trust, and you enjoy the sexual chemistry he or she brings to the setting, you'll discover mutual masturbation greatly adds to your repertoire of sexual gratification.
This article and all other articles on this site are not meant as medical or personal advice. They are presented for their entertainment value only. Please consult a qualified health practitioner.