Besides the age-old question "does size matter?," female ejaculation is perhaps the most hotly debated topic of women's sexuality.
Men ejaculate semen produced in the prostate and seminal vesicle glands. Women lack these glands - so they say - which means that if a girl squirts a liquid during orgasm, it has to be pee.
Turns out it's not that simple. We'll cover basic observations about female anatomy and your natural ability to squirt, but first, let's tackle the following question first:
Since the dawn of time ejaculation has been seen as male sexual behavior. So why would a girl even be remotely interested in squirting something when she comes?
To answer that, you either have to be a man who no longer ejaculates in the normal way, or a woman who has experienced female ejaculation.
Both will tell you that expelling a liquid during climax can dramatically enhance the orgasmic experience.
For men, a common side-effect of prostate surgery is something called retrograde ejaculation, where the seminal fluids are pumped toward the bladder during orgasm, instead of outside via the penis. (Retrograde ejaculation can also occur due to diabetes, bladder surgery, certain kinds of medication, and other conditions.)
Many men with retrograde ejaculation experience diminished sensation during orgasm. Put simply, it just doesn't feel quite as good as it used to. It's one of those things that you miss when it's no longer there.
Women can experience the same sensations, for the same reasons. Females who have learned how to ejaculate say that squirting a liquid right at the moment or orgasm has a extremely arousing and satisfying effect. It can also be something of a power trip: cumming is no longer just for men!
When a girl ejaculates fluid comes out of her urethra. There have been numerous studies regarding female ejaculation, and the majority of the most recent ones tend to agree on this: it's not just urine. Most often the liquid is either clear or a milky white, like a thin mixture of a man's semen.
While there may be some chemicals common to urine in female ejaculate, the amounts are far less than would be expected if the liquid came solely from the bladder. Most curiously, girl cum contains many of the same components as male semen, including something called PSA, or prostatic specific antigen.
This begs the question, Do women have a prostate gland? In a word, yes. In fact, both men and women share much of the same basic body parts, even those that are distinct to the sexes. What differs is how these parts form during early gestation of the human embryo.
Our take on the matter is this: Even if female ejaculation is nothing more than pee, it doesn't really matter. What matters is the sensations you feel when you squirt. Leave the scientific debate to those who like to argue boring facts and figures. As long as it feels good, do it!
Women produce other fluids during sexual arousal, so things tend to get pretty wet down there.
For example, the Bartholin glands, located at the opening to the vagina, secret a thick liquid that acts as one of the lubricants for intercourse. During intercourse, the vagina itself seeps a lubricating liquid all along its length.
Different women producing varying amounts of these fluids, from tiny droplets to veritable rivulets. Age, hormone levels, and other factors far too numerous to mention here can influence the amount of fluids that are secreted.
Ejaculating during orgasm requires these principle ingredients:
Start your ejaculation regimen by strengthening your PC muscles. The basic Kegal exercise involves clamping and releasing the pelvic muscles as if you're starting to pee, then suddenly try to stop it. Most women do this while sitting, but it can also be performed while laying on the floor, and in conjunction with other toning exercises, like ab crunches.
You can hurry along the progress by using a Kegal exerciser. These are available from doctors and physical therapists, but can be frightfully expensive.
Many of the better online adult novelty sellers offer similar devices, made of hard plastic, glass, or stainless steel. They come in a variety of shapes and sizes, with the vaginal barbell, shown here, among the most common. It can be used both as a muscle toner and as a sex toy.
Another helpful method is weighted balls, also called ben wa balls. These are inserted inside the vagina, and help promote tonality by making you consciously clench your pelvic muscles. The heavier the balls the better, as gravity will make them want to fall out. Your goal is to keep them in!
While some women are able to ejaculate without stimulating the G-spot, most require direct and constant stimulation of this mysterious contraption.
First is to locate your G-spot, if you haven't already done so. This may take some patience and practice. Unlike your clitoris, which after you reached a certain age was hard to miss, your G-spot may be far more elusive.
Your G-spot is inside you, along the front of your vagina, about two inches from the opening. You may feel a spongy sort thing in that general area. This is the urethral sponge. Some argue this is not specifically your G-spot, though others insist they are one in the same.
In either case, if you can feel the spongy part, you know you're in the right area. The urethral sponge contains erectile tissue, so it will get larger and more firm as you become aroused.
Use your fingers to feel all around the spongy mass. You may find that you need to massage directly over the urethral sponge, or to one side. Gently touch all around, and listen to what your body tells you. When you hit your G-spot you will, more than likely, have a growing urge to urinate. When that happens you know you're on the right track. (If this sensation never happens don't worry. Every woman is different.)
Now that you have located your G-spot you may find the most effective way of pleasuring it is with a vibrating toy, rather than your fingers. You can use your regular vibrator, but a better approach is a vibrator with a special bulb on the end. See our sex toys page for suggestions on suitable novelties for G-spot stimulation.
G-spot toys are specially angled to apply direct stimulation of your G-spot, without requiring unusual contortions of your hands or vagina. The better toys concentrate the vibrations to the bulb, delivering maximum power for maximum benefit.
Use plenty of lubrication to prevent the toy from chaffing or causing discomfort.
It's hard to feel good about something when you're worried what will happen. If you somehow do manage to ejaculate, imagine the mess you'll make!
So, start first with some preparation. Get some old towels and place them on the bed, under you. If you squirt the most that'll happen is that you'll wet the towels, which are easily washed.
Some female ejaculation guides suggest that you first empty your bladder. That's a good idea, but remember it's no sin to squirt a little pee if this is what comes out of you. In any case you want to avoid a completely full bladder, as that can inhibit having an orgasm, not just ejaculating.
Remove all your clothing, at least the bottom half. You don't want an unconscious worry that you'll soil your panties or socks. If you share your home with others, you'll also need absolute privacy, preferably by locking the bedroom door, or adding some kind of door stop to prevent it from being opened by a curious husband or child.
Use your fingers and toy to simultaneously stimulate your G-spot and your clitoris. Except for pain (which is unlikely), consciously allow whatever sensations you're feeling. Go with the flow.
Don't be discouraged if the first few attempts don't yield any results. It takes practice - more than that, it takes unlearning years of having orgasms one way, and learning how to have a brand new kind.
Feel free to experiment. Try different things.
Many women find they must remove the G-spot stimulation in order to finish their orgasm. As they reach the top they quickly pull out the vibrator. This is especially true if the vibrator is large, and is crimping on the urethra, where the fluid must escape.
The nerve endings between your clitoris and your urethral sponge are interconnected. This is why most women have the greatest success when they simultaneously stimulate both clitoris and G-spot.
However, for some women, the stimulation on both can prove too much. They become over-stimulated, and the nerves shut themselves off. If this happens, stop and try again some other time. Given enough practice you'll learn how much attention your clitoris and G-spot need for you to ejaculate when you come.
You may prefer less direct contact of your G-spot. Rather than the buzz of a vibrator, some women like the feel of a large dildo inside them that spreads the vaginal walls, and rubs against the G-spot.
You can use a penis-shaped dildo, or one that has a curve or "hook" on the end made for G-spot massage. Or, you can simply use your G-spot vibrator, turned off. G-spot Kegel excersize bars are specially designed to fit inside your nooks and crannies, and massage you where it counts. They're a little more expensive, but they're so beautiful they can even double as sculptures on your coffee table! They make great conversation pieces.
There are numerous visual guides and books to learning how to pleasure your G-spot and ejaculate. Here are a few of our favorites. All are top-rated by other women and couples.
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